When people imagine “going with the flow” while traveling, they often picture a backpacker drifting from place to place, deciding day-by-day where to go next. For some, that’s freeing. For me, it’s exhausting.
I’ve learned that I thrive when I have anchors, key points in my journey that give me structure, purpose, and a sense of security. These anchors are not rigid itineraries. They’re simply commitments that hold me steady, so I can truly relax and enjoy the in-between. While still being open to the fact plans change.
What anchors look like for me
For my upcoming travels in South America, my anchors are and were:
Volunteer placements that align with my soul, like teaching yoga and supporting at an healing center. Which are often planned 6 months in advance (I did not even know that).
Knowing my “must-do” dreams (deep spiritual work, teaching yoga) and letting the rest, like which waterfalls I’ll see, be decided on the way.
A pre and post natal yoga course that I really wanted to do and include in this trip, so I also finish my trip in a place that I already love.
These anchors create a foundation.
I don’t have to plan every bus ride or cafe stop, but I also don’t want to wake up unsure if I’ll have a bed tonight.
Why I’m not a “pure” go-with-the-flow traveler
There’s a side to the ultra-spontaneous travel culture that I find toxic. It often romanticizes sleeping in airports, skipping meals, or spending hours trying to find a place to stay, all in the name of “freedom.” For me, that’s not freedom, that’s unnecessary stress.
I love being open to magic and surprises, but I also love feeling nourished, well-rested, and safe. The two can coexist.
The difference between anchors and fantasies
An anchor is real. It’s a confirmed opportunity, a booked volunteer role, or a exiting course you want to do.
It’s not a daydream about how amazing a place will be.
When I anchor my travels, I’m not living in the future, I’m simply creating the conditions for my future self to thrive. I can be fully present now because I know those pieces are in place.
Freedom through stability
The paradox is this: the more secure my anchors, the more spacious my days feel.
Because I’m not constantly worrying about where I’ll sleep or how I’ll earn, I can wander, meet new people, and follow my intuition, knowing I have a safe harbor to return to.
Anchors don’t weigh me down.
They let me float. And I love traveling like this.
miracles of the moon ☽ 