This book was an intense read… It is like a research project where Tara dives deep into the Indian culture where a lot of rapes are happening. Be aware that this post can be triggering. I recommend you to read the book.
Being able to pee anywhere is the first sociological step to making Indian men in the patriarchal world. Little boys are thought to have never need any control never need to have respect for personal space. That they are entitled to impose their body fluids and penises on the world at large.
Periods were celebrated the first time as the harbinger of fertility and then subsequently stigmatized. Woman are alone, didn’t wash their hair, touched no one but their husbands and didn’t go to the temple.
The strongest factor for gender violence is seeing your father use violence against your mother in the household.
There is a lack of sexual education. Boys tend to receive their knowledge from locker room talk, friends, porn and sex workers. Along half baked knowledge of sex – older boys also pass highly misogynistic ideas about woman, learned from porn.
The honor of the family lies in the vaginas of woman. From a patriarchal perspective, rape is a crime against the owner of the woman. Not the woman herself.
The problematic relationship between alcohol and crime is well documented. The effects of alcohol on behavior are determined by cultural norms, not by the chemical actions of ethanol.
Movie industry. Bollywood representation. Chasing the woman – even if she says no she wants. Stalking.
One subject believed rape is with violence and with multiple men. When a woman is convinced of sex – it is not rape.
Sex workers is immoral and bad profession but necessary. It’s evil but it satisfies the lists of men and prevents sexual violence.
Sex workers in two ways the choice less choice and the post shame woman who freely choose sex workers- selling a service under capitalism. Not all sex workers is rape and not every woman needs rescuing.
Sex work reinforces the stereotypical idea that links woman sex and violence. Woman are seen as sex objects – whose bodies are for use and abuse by men. With sex workers we contribute to rape culture.
Link this pornography and violence with the endorphins screen addiction is known to release and it’s a deadly cocktail.
One can perpetrate crimes on others only because one does not see them as human, but as different from and less than human or equal.
1/3 of the people and cases in prison are because the girl lied and was caught. Or because there are some issues between families. They are fake the cases. Families are more willing to have the stigma of rape than having the stigma of their daughter choosing her own sex or life partner.
It has been found the world over that gender violence sexual or otherwise increases as woman’s emancipation does. This is to keep them under control.
Survivors vulnerabilities cannot excuse abuse. We cannot blame woman for putting themselves in bad situations when it is the men that make the situations bad to begin with.
Human beings are different form the rest of the creatures on earth. We are the archery of languages and the writer of religions the creators of cultures and capitalism and chaos. We are different and we know it. So we can not suddenly and when convenient claim the ascent of animals.
In war woman are being raped. Why. Because it’s the collective political agenda of rape here is power assertion and to instill fear.
We live in an increasingly sexualized society. The knowledge that others are doing it allows more people to consider abusing children too.
When society wants to keep a woman safe, it never chooses to make public spaces safe for her. Instead it tries to limit her right to this space.
The way the language speaks about woman has an impact on the sexist culture. Calling woman miss or madam based on marriage. The way the newspaper writes about woman.
In India they believe that woman always wants to have a lot of sex. All woman always wanted sex and consent is irrelevant because sex could not happen without bodily agreements. And with marriage you get a legal sanction to have sex with that so mean as much as you want.
The power rapist believe that even though the victim initially resists them, that once you overpower the victim, the victim will eventually enjoy the rape. If sex happens, attraction will follow.
The most defining characteristics of my subjects are selfish and angry.
Although other genders then female are raped and other genders then male rape – there is an essential difference between grown men and woman encountering sexual violence. It is that this fear does not usually haunt men or determine and perpetuate cultural mores of gender inequality.
Patriarchy is one of the primary reasons for rape. Law and enforcement, media and education? Capitalism and caste system. Poverty politics, power, population.
Feminism is not a battle between men and woman but between ideologies of patriarchy and human rights.
Feminism has many advantages for boys and men. It frees them allowing them to display feminine interests and qualities. It allows then to feel and show the depth and range of emotions. And experience deep and loving relationships. Men are more than protectors and provides, initiators and predictors. It must upset and offend men to be grouped with and stereotyped as predators just because of their gender.
miracles of the moon ☽ 