A lesson on learning to meet people where they are. You see so much power and light in someone, but they do not see it yet themselves. And realizing that I can’t build something real with a version of them that only exists in my mind.
You can see their potential so clearly, see the person they could become, the work they are meant to do in the world, the depth and the space you might create together.
But then I also see the reality: this person is not there yet, they struggle with the snakes in their head, they are not grounded in life. Not stable and not ready.
There’s this song I heard the other day, with the lyric: “I will wait for you while you fight the demons inside.” And part of me gets that. Part of me wants to believe love is patient and that it’s okay to hold space for someone while they figure it out. But the other part of me is like you can not wait for someone if they never reach this potential.
Falling in love with someone’s future self instead of seeing their actual capacity is not reality, it is not helping you.
This person has to choose to grow and do the work. Wanting and doing it are two different things.
Some people have magic inside them, but it is their choice to bring it into the world.
miracles of the moon ☽ 