Someone else their truth does not have to be yours… we all experience life and everything that happens in different ways. I realize more and more how we all live in our inner world which reflects how we view the outer one.
Even though I fantasize and I project onto people as well, especially in romantic settings I never push these ideas up on people. I keep them in my head. Keep the energy clean, calm and grounded. I keep these inner thoughts to me. Maybe because my Pluto is conjunct my IC, which keeps my transformation and intensity private and to myself.
Anyway this some situations with others stir up a lot and I end up crying at home (cancer stelium). Stating boundaries and clearly communicating a disinterest is so important! These are the Capricorn lessons I am integrating so much.
It is never good to idealize others, putting others above yourself. I see it like this: the attraction → projection → fixation cycle.
An interesting aspect is also how the other views the disconnection based on their own POV. While if they would have felt the energy truly they would have felt some form of discomfort. Also keep in mind if people listened clearly, they’d know I am doing this world travel trip while healing, connecting with plant medicine and building Miracles Of The Moon. Also I am 27, not +10 years, I am in this phase of my life where I am exploring, finding out what works for me. Not settling down?
Also I did experience this with someone who literally told me that I’m young and I need to explore, who respects the phase I am in and actually motivates me to follow my path without giving me this “pushy” feeling.
It is so so so important to let things unfold naturally. Slowly. Layer by layer.
I often do not feel seen or heard. Especially not on a soul level, more like o this person is beautiful looking and her energy is nice. Whenever men make compliments solo on physical appearance I think this is so boring! Like come on, there is so much more to me.
Also meeting people and connecting with them during an event: dancing, talking, eye contact does not have to mean anything. Especially if we are two conscious people I love to just acknowledge each other. While I connect with many people and not everything has meaning. Sometimes we just smile, or make a brief connection without it needing to be more.
Even if I would see my dream partner (energy and looks) walk past me, I still am grounded enough to think: I do not know this person and also I would let this person pass by me without doing anything. Because I have faith, whatever needs to be, will find me and there is no need for this “force”.
time on my moon dc and venus dc line this past summer TAUGHT me:
Energetic compatibility is so important
Sometimes I feel from the start that something is off, can be a lack of physical attraction, not moving with my rhythm and respecting my paste, heaviness after meeting and crying at home. This reminded me that energy alignment isn’t just about connection or shared stories, it’s about body, mind, and spirit all saying yes. It is confirmed to me that just because the universe puts someone in my path doesn’t mean they’re meant to stay.
Your right to choose even when someone wants more
Some people want to see you again; and it is ok if you do not. I honored that truth now, even though someone can be emotionally invested, which is a form of self-respect. It showed me that kindness doesn’t mean overextending myself just to spare someone’s feelings.
How over investment can feel from the other side
Some people come in with big emotional energy, rapid attachment, and a “this is significant” vibe from the start. I got to experience what it’s like when someone builds a narrative about me before truly knowing me and how heavy that can feel. This helped me spot the difference between healthy enthusiasm and overwhelming intensity. And also shown me how I may have done this myself in the past to other people as well. It is not fair. Calmly get to know someone, intensity is ok but when you are in the beginning stage keep some stuff to yourself. Someone is not your therapist.
Literally my friend who is a therapist, she said to me: at least I get paid to listen to all of that. Agreed. When we just meet. Keep it a bit light, I think the more spiritual we become the more light we get over our “traumas” – I don’t even believe in them anymore. Just let it go and focus on enjoying life. The deep chats and how we are shaped the way we are, will come. And if they naturally come in the beginning it is also beautiful but hold space for one another and do not just dumb.
The importance of emotional reciprocity
When I share something vulnerable, sometimes people can’t hold space for me; instead, they need space themselves. That is totally fine, more and more I realize I hold space for me and it is ok. But for a romantic partnership it highlighted that sensitivity alone isn’t enough for me, emotional connection requires the ability to receive and hold the other person’s experience, not just share your own. I feel like I take on this role of caring and holding space for someone but they do not offer the same in return.
My boundaries are intact
When I feel uncomfortable, I can reflect and end things. I used emotional self-protection. I can even do this more, if ever I am in this situation again where I am not sure of someones intentions: ask ask ask. Also take more time to integrate something before I say yes to spending more time together.
Just to finalize.
I see it now as that some situations happened to remind me that I am already good at honoring my own boundaries and that not every soul who crosses my path is meant to walk alongside me. Sometimes, they’re just there to reinforce the clarity I already have inside.
miracles of the moon ☽ 