Sometimes, someone shows up with all the right intentions – open heart, grand gestures, a willingness to give.
And yet… something inside you feels off. Your body tenses. Your heart closes. Your nervous system goes into overdrive. And you don’t know why.
For a long time, I thought love meant pushing through that discomfort. If someone puts all this effort – I owe him.
I thought it meant being grateful for anyone who chose me – especially if they did so loudly.
But love shouldn’t feel like pressure.
It shouldn’t feel like someone entering your field with so much force that you forget your own needs.
What I’ve learned is this:
Energy matters. Sometimes we aren’t responding to the person – we’re responding to the energy they bring. Intensity doesn’t always equal depth. Pressure isn’t passion. Your body is wise. If your chest tightens, if you feel anxious, if you find yourself needing space – listen. That is not your “fear of intimacy,” that is your body speaking. You don’t need to justify your no.
Mixed signals usually mean: I feel guilty for my truth. We fear hurting others, so we delay clarity. But clarity is kindness. Every time.
It’s okay to walk away – even from good people.
It’s okay to choose your peace over someone else’s fantasy.
It’s okay to not feel ready – to need gentleness instead of grand gestures.
To those who feel overwhelmed in love: you’re not broken. You’re awakening.
You’re learning that true connection isn’t about being pursued – it’s about being met.
And when that happens?
It won’t feel like pressure.
It will feel like calm to the storm.
miracles of the moon ☽ 